Thursday, 23 July 2009

The Problem with Generalisations

In last night's episode of "Sex and the City", which is about the lives and loves of four close girlfriends, Carrie introduces her new boyfriend, Berger, to her friends. Miranda tells her friends about a man she went out who wouldn't go back to her place for "coffee." She asks Berger for his opinion as a guy. Berger tells her that a guy will never miss out on an opportunity to spend the night. The only time he will pass is when he's not into the woman. Berger tells Miranda to expect an apologetic email from her date to try and to make excuses. Charlotte, who is a great believer in love, doesn't believe Berger. She assures Miranda that there must be another reason why her date wasn't keen on spending more time with her, but Berger insists Miranda's date is not into her.

Miranda buys into Berger's theory and expects never to see her date again. She soon receives an email from her date which she interprets as his way of trying to make an excuse. One day while she's having lunch, she eavesdrops a conversation between two young women discussing why one friend hasn't heard from her boyfriend. The other friend assures her he's probably busy and he's going to call. Miranda is so convinced that the "he's just not into you" rule applies in every situation that she decides to share the "good news" with the young women. She tells her the man is not into her so she should just move on. Her advice is not appreciated.

A few days later, Miranda's friend calls to arrange another dinner date. They go out for another curry and get on really well. After the meal, Miranda asks him back to her place, but he tells her he can't make it. Miranda asks him to be honest that he's just not into her. Her date says he really likes her but the reason why he has to go home because he has diarrhoea. Miranda now realises that both dinner dates had been two hot for him to handle.

That's the problem with generalisations, they tend to be based on false assumptions and expectations. Maybe, I should say ALL generalisations are based on false assumptions and expectations, then I will be generalising. Ha!

I believe there are some generalisations that are true for everyone. For instance, we all want to prosper, be happy, and fulfilled, but how they are expressed depends on each individual's idea of happiness, prosperity and fulfilment. It's because I believe we are all unique, that's why when I share my experiences, I share in the first person. It's up to the readers to decide whether they identify with my experiences or not.

Today is a wonderful day.
Every day is wonderful.

There I go generalising again! When will I ever learn?


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